Instantly relatable and I’m coming out of the grieving season. Thank God because I didn’t even know I was grieving until I realized I went through the stages of it. This was a good read📖
Thank you for your kind words. Sometimes we have no idea that what we are feeling is grief. I feel like I'm either coming out of one or getting ready to enter one! There is always something to grieve, but always something to rejoice over.
Yes one can greive, base on circumstances or challenges. Yes we can greive on the negatives but we can also greive on the positive one the the challenge and the circumstance is huge
I’ve had to grieve versions of my life I was certain would unfold differently. I’m learning that honoring what could have been doesn’t mean I have to remain there. Sometimes letting go of the life we imagined is what finally creates room for the life that is still waiting to meet us. ❤️
Yes indeed. When we were preparing for our firstborn, I had expectations. He experienced delays in development and was diagnosed with autism shortly after he turned 3. Where I pictured we’d be at 7, we are nowhere near, and it hurts. But I had a healing conversation with the Lord, where I laid out all my feelings, and He met me there. I prayed for connection with my son, and God is growing a love in my heart for my son… it’s beautiful. God is faithful.
Amen, Beth. Thank you for your vulnerability and encouragement! God does meet us and is so good. But it's not always instantly. I have to go through the process. It sounds like you do, too!
Judith Viorst, wrote a book, Necessary Losses, a long time ago that was instrumental in the formation of my counseling. Her premise was that would go through losses throughout our whole life. It’s not just grieving when someone dies. It’s anytime we don’t get our way or even when we’re transitioning from one part of life to another. We are always giving up something.
So, once again, I totally agree with your line of thinking, not that my opinion is any better than anyone else’s, lol.
This sounds like an absolutely wonderful idea. That book was great but a little dated now, but the concepts are still universal. So this generation needs to hear it too.
Erin, thank you for naming this so honestly. Grief over what never arrived is still grief. Faith does not ask us to pretend we feel nothing. Jesus wept even when He knew the ending. Your words give room to be honest before God without rushing past the ache. I am learning this in a new level in this season.
That's exactly right! He wept, He knew the ending and He knew it was a good ending! Grieve what you grieve and feel what you feel. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you, Erin. It still comforts me that He wept even knowing how the story would end. Grateful for the honest room your writing gives to grieve before God.
Thank you for sharing. Lately I've been grieving the fact that I probably won't be able to have more children. I have one, she's 17 and fantastic. But I always thought I'd have more. I would beat myself up that I was so ungrateful. At lest I have a kid. Right? So thank you for letting me know it's okay to grieve something that hasn't happened.
Not only is it okay, it's healthy! Didn't Jesus grieve going to the cross while in the garden? And He knew it had to happen and would happen. But in his humanity, He felt the pain. And we are allowed to as well. Feel what you feel. And thank you for sharing.
Yes, we my son died from a drug overdose…. I grieved the loss greatly and was overcome with sadness. Because I put so much hope in my prayers for his healing
Wanda, I am so very sorry. I cannot imagine the pain you have gone through. My brother died of a drug overdose so I understand, to a degree. Thank you for sharing. How long ago?
Instantly relatable and I’m coming out of the grieving season. Thank God because I didn’t even know I was grieving until I realized I went through the stages of it. This was a good read📖
Thank you for your kind words. Sometimes we have no idea that what we are feeling is grief. I feel like I'm either coming out of one or getting ready to enter one! There is always something to grieve, but always something to rejoice over.
Amen 💜
Yes one can greive, base on circumstances or challenges. Yes we can greive on the negatives but we can also greive on the positive one the the challenge and the circumstance is huge
Very true!
I’ve had to grieve versions of my life I was certain would unfold differently. I’m learning that honoring what could have been doesn’t mean I have to remain there. Sometimes letting go of the life we imagined is what finally creates room for the life that is still waiting to meet us. ❤️
I totally agree! But it's a process right?
For sure. A long process.
Yes indeed. When we were preparing for our firstborn, I had expectations. He experienced delays in development and was diagnosed with autism shortly after he turned 3. Where I pictured we’d be at 7, we are nowhere near, and it hurts. But I had a healing conversation with the Lord, where I laid out all my feelings, and He met me there. I prayed for connection with my son, and God is growing a love in my heart for my son… it’s beautiful. God is faithful.
Amen, Beth. Thank you for your vulnerability and encouragement! God does meet us and is so good. But it's not always instantly. I have to go through the process. It sounds like you do, too!
Judith Viorst, wrote a book, Necessary Losses, a long time ago that was instrumental in the formation of my counseling. Her premise was that would go through losses throughout our whole life. It’s not just grieving when someone dies. It’s anytime we don’t get our way or even when we’re transitioning from one part of life to another. We are always giving up something.
So, once again, I totally agree with your line of thinking, not that my opinion is any better than anyone else’s, lol.
Absolutely! My book is about all types of losses! Life is full of them, but also great joy. Thank you! Your opinion matters and is appreciated!
This sounds like an absolutely wonderful idea. That book was great but a little dated now, but the concepts are still universal. So this generation needs to hear it too.
Thank you! This will help me in my writing!
Erin, thank you for naming this so honestly. Grief over what never arrived is still grief. Faith does not ask us to pretend we feel nothing. Jesus wept even when He knew the ending. Your words give room to be honest before God without rushing past the ache. I am learning this in a new level in this season.
That's exactly right! He wept, He knew the ending and He knew it was a good ending! Grieve what you grieve and feel what you feel. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you, Erin. It still comforts me that He wept even knowing how the story would end. Grateful for the honest room your writing gives to grieve before God.
Me too! Thank you for the encouragement!
Thank you for sharing. Lately I've been grieving the fact that I probably won't be able to have more children. I have one, she's 17 and fantastic. But I always thought I'd have more. I would beat myself up that I was so ungrateful. At lest I have a kid. Right? So thank you for letting me know it's okay to grieve something that hasn't happened.
Not only is it okay, it's healthy! Didn't Jesus grieve going to the cross while in the garden? And He knew it had to happen and would happen. But in his humanity, He felt the pain. And we are allowed to as well. Feel what you feel. And thank you for sharing.
Yes, we my son died from a drug overdose…. I grieved the loss greatly and was overcome with sadness. Because I put so much hope in my prayers for his healing
Wanda, I am so very sorry. I cannot imagine the pain you have gone through. My brother died of a drug overdose so I understand, to a degree. Thank you for sharing. How long ago?
I have a similar story if anyone is interested in reading 💜 https://substack.com/@thehealingmother/note/p-216619322?r=93fh65&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=notes-share-action